Monday 18 November 2013

HOMOSEXUALITY: A return to our roots?



“What Catholicism and most other modern Christian churches vigorously deny is just how much homosexuality was not tolerated, although practiced by many of its founding fathers and the degree of toleration- if not veneration, that it received.”
Yuki Choe, writer for Reflections Asia.

Homosexuality is one of the three main categories of sexual orientation, along with bisexuality and heterosexuality, within the heterosexual-homosexual continuum (with asexuality sometimes considered a fourth).

Homosexuality and Bisexuality are ubiquitous throughout the world. They exist in all cultures, and at all times in history. Relics of our evolutionary history, homosexuality and bisexuality are very commonly practiced nearly in every culture, whether tolerated or not. The differences among cultures are the openness with which it is practiced.

Some degree of bisexuality, in the absence of cultural taboos, is not only extremely common in men, but is probably the rule! “Homosexuality of convenience” which occurs in the absence of available female partners (such as is commonly seen in prisons) is widespread even in cultures that frown homosexuality. Most men, at some time in their lives experience homoerotic feelings towards other men-whether they admit it or not.

According to Masters and Johnson, the percentage of men who have had a homoerotic experience to orgasm is amazingly high in America. By the age of 49, 60% of American men have had such an experience.

The argument here though, was, and has always been, that homosexuality is un-African and that it has never existed in any prominent way in African societies. Most Africans today argue that Western nations, whilst they denigrate certain African sexualities like polygamy, are the ones responsible for past and current attempts to foist acceptance of homosexuality on African countries and their peoples, a practice many believe to be “Western” or “European”.

History of homosexuality in Africa
Along with the moralisms of Traditional African religions, Christianity and Islam –which were brought to Africa by European missionaries and Arab traders respectively– facilitated homophobia because they regard homosexuality as sin. Today religion shapes many African social and political designs. Churches in Africa are major players in the production of homophobia. According to an article; African Myths about homosexuality, churches here are the most dominant homophobic institutions. Not all African and African-American churches, however, are intolerant to homosexuals.

In pre-colonial Africa, gender variance and sexual inversion included ritual incest and celibacy, such as the Mbonga, a female guardian whose celibacy protected the Shona chief, and the chibanda, a caste of male diviners possessed by female spirits and referred to in early European sources as “passive sodomies”. Among the Lovedu people, the gender inversion involved women. The “rain queen” kept her virginity, but married other girls. In the nineteenth century, Ndebele and Ngoni warriors introduced the practice of ritual male-male sexuality as part of war preparations.

In pre-modern African states, Africans did not conform to the idealized heterosexuality that contemporary African leaders, like Mugabe, prefer to claim as “African Tradition”.

Homosexuality in modern day Africa
From Uganda, where homosexuality is punishable by life imprisonment, to Sierra Leone, where a lesbian activist was raped and stabbed to death on her desk last year. In Kenya, sadly, homosexuals are exposed to both extremes; charged to imprisonment, as well as beaten up in public. Homophobia has long trapped gays in a dangerous, closeted life. With no places to meet openly, no groups to join, it seems sometimes that gay men and lesbians in Africa don't exist at all.



“The only answer is education,” said Linda Baumann, 21, who grew up in a tribal community and was expelled from it when she revealed she was a lesbian. She now lives in Windhoek and hosts a radio program about gay issues. “We have to have courage and stick up for ourselves.”

It is important to appreciate the real roots of our current homophobia. There is little connection between the revulsion we have towards homosexuality with our pre-colonial ancestors who, despite having strict rules that governed all sexualities, did not really see homosexuality as ‘evil’ or deride gays as “worse than dogs and pigs”, as wrote one respondent.

In fact, the roots of our homophobia can actually be traced, paradoxically, to the influence of European colonial rule! If we want to argue that homosexuality is ‘un-African’, it is better not to use “tradition” as a justification for our homophobia because it was actually European colonists who introduced homophobic sentiments in colonial Africa.

Friday 9 August 2013

A Cure For Tribalism



“People who think with their epidermis or their genitalia or their clan are the problem to begin with. One does not banish this specter by invoking it. If I would not vote against someone on the grounds of 'race' or 'gender' alone, then by the exact same token I would not cast a vote in his or her favor for the identical reason. Yet see how this obvious question makes fairly intelligent people say the most alarmingly stupid things.” 

Tribalism is a curse in this nation; caused neighbours to turn on each other, caused friends to hold knives at each other’s throats, even infants to be orphans. Politics is only for those who can play smart, even so, voters must learn to be smarter, because they are the ones to suffer the power they have bestowed on these people.

Stereotypes exist in all nations. Some can be great; like the black man and his penis, though most are normally negative. The way to have fun with these is only through education. Ignorance is very dangerous.

Most of us are living witnesses to the carnage that went on in Rwanda, Liberia, Seira-Leone and Somalia. These countries all fell into the abyss due to tribalism and ethincism. I believe that Kenya, having witnessed just a little of this carnage – after the 2007 general elections- is highly enlightened not to descend that low, though history is not on our side, and may show that things that happened in other countries can also repeat here.
“What is straight? A line can be straight, or a street, but the human heart, oh, no, it's curved like a road through mountains.”— Tennessee Williams. According to this saying, it is quite unpredictable to know for sure what another human has planned. We may have peace campaigns and all that, but if the people in power (who normally have control of the armed forces) decide they wish to stay in power ‘by any means necessary’, the citizens are in trouble.

Kenyan politicians normally seek support from their ethnic or sub-ethnic groups, and citizens perceived most political battles to be about dividing the "national cake" among the constituent ethnic groups. Ruling and opposition parties represent primarily all, some, or coalitions of ethnic groups. Quite saddening is the fact that ethnically marked electoral violence, largely instigated by the ruling regime, has come to be expected, though not accepted, as part of the campaign season. Leaders are far more prone to make appeals to the state for resources in openly ethnic terms than they dared to run during the one-party era.

Quoting a line from one of Eric Wainaina’s song “… and they just watch from high windows,” is very true and quite saddening. What many Kenyans do not realize is that the people they claim to be fighting for or ‘protecting their honor’, actually, do not know them personally or come to their defense should they go against the law ‘protecting them’. What happens is more often than not; down in the streets your sons and daughter will be slaughtering each other, yet the ones they are fight for are in a hotel somewhere sharing a beer as they watch a match. John Steinbeck believed, And the little screaming fact that sounds through all history: repression works only to strengthen and knit the repressed.” This is very sad, being very true

Kenyans were killing each other in the name of their ethnic groups- for their leaders; the same leaders that were sharing space and coming together. A report from the government- after the tension rose to unimaginable heights- claimed that “we had it cheap”. The estimated deaths after the ‘crowning’ of Kibaki were 5,000 and by February, only 1,600 had been declared dead due to the clashes. Stop and think critically. How cheap is cheap? What about the infant orphan? What about the one who lost his company? What about the amputee? Whatever happened to “the greater good”? Because clearly this swearing in was for the lesser good.

It is in appreciating what other cultures have to offer can we understand them. As Harper Lee said, “You never really understand a person until you consider things from his point of view... Until you climb inside of his skin and walk around in it.” Ignorance again, is the root of evil. We have to utilize our differences, not use them to condemn each other. Slavery arose due to ignorance, claims that the ‘Black’ mind could not learn, that ‘Blacks’ are closer to monkeys and apes than to humans (‘whites’) and that they work best when they are under the command of an evolved man (the ‘white man’). “Freeing yourself was one thing, claiming ownership of that freed self was another.” Claimed Toni Morrison

What many fail to realize is that we are enslaving ourselves by confining ourselves to what is comfortable. We may be free from the ‘white man’ rule, but we are very far from being free. Many still claim that we’d be better if the ‘white’ man was still around. Sticking to the people who are like us, adhere to the same beliefs and even ascribe to the same ethnic background is redundant and unproductive. We remain stagnant and do not develop (evolve) further in out ways of thinking or doing things. This goes back to the story of the two frogs:
There are two pots of water. One has hot boiling water, while the other is cold and low heat under it. The first frog is put into the boiling water-instantly, it jumps out. The second, being in the cold water, gets comfortable and relaxes. The water eventually boils and kills the frog within it. Moral of this story is that when we get too comfortable with what we have, we ‘die’ due to lack of motivation or knowing any better. Too much comfort is the death of a society. Challenging the ‘norm’ and bringing in new ideas and modes of doing things is the only way to keep alive and stimulated.
Only by diversifying, can we enhance our lives. We do not necessarily have to forget where we come from; we just have to add to what we already have.

The only real cure for this ethnic animosity is to educate people and encourage intermarriages. By marrying from another ethnic group, can one claim to be a part of both. Having two does not make you impure, on the contrary, it makes you richer than the one who ascribes to just one. Coming from a very mixed background, I can confidently say I am Kenyan. My paternal grandparents are Ugandan and Luo, my maternal Kikuyu and Kalenjin. I know the rites and rituals and histories of all of them, I speak their languages. This makes me richer, makes me more Kenyan!!